Tantrums
Temper tantrums are the most stressful part of being a mother. Not only is the screaming worse than finger nails on a chalkboard, but all the experts say we should ignore them. This is where the really stressful part is. Your child is laying on the floor, screaming to get their way, and what do you do? Nothing. Different feelings go through me during a child's tantrum. I must admit that Duct tape has crossed my mind a time or two, but, of course, I am a responsible parent and would never do such a thing. The feeling I am having at the moment is anger. Which is why I am typing. The feelings inside me are to pick them up and scream right back at them to "Shut UP!" Once again, I would never do this because a) that is counterproductive to calming a child down and b) "shut up" is a not-nice word that comes with a time-out penalty.
One of the bad things about our society is that no one ever talks about these hidden feelings. Everyone is so scared that someone else might judge them a bad parent. I know I would never say these feelings to my friends, unless in a joking manner. Why is this?
If my mother were still alive, I know she would understand.
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People don't talk about these feelings because they worry that if they do, they'll get reported to "child services" or police or whatever and have the kids taken away from them.
And in today's society, it's a reasonable fear.
I'm probably not a parent because I consider duct tape a reasonable method to shut the little rugrat up. (okay, really, I'm only kidding there)
That is so true. I think people are scared that if someone has these feelings, they may act on them. But that just isn't the case. Just because I get so upset and frustrated sometimes (which these blogs are written at the heat of the moment) doesn't mean I actually do the stuff I am thinking. But without having someone to talk to about those feelings, they linger and turn into guilt and sadness. My mother would have been great to talk to about this, but this blog is also helping alot.
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